The Things We Do for Love

In the beginning of any relationship, it seems easier to convince your partner to do whatever it is you want them to do.  The first Halloween that Dave and I were together, I persuaded him to dress as a woman, using all the essentials needed to pull it off.  Since I enjoy my marriage for the most part, I will not go into the details of this story, but will tell you, he blended in at the bars and was even mistaken for a female.  I will, however, tell you about the first thing I did for love.

Winter in Potsdam is bone chilling.  The North Country of New York State can reach some of the country’s lowest of the lows in temperature.  It was not uncommon for the wind chill to be negative 20 degrees.  There would be warning signs posted in the Student Union, “Cover all exposed skin” and “Remove earrings to avoid frostbite.”  Potsdam, NY was named the “coldest town” on the Weather Channel on more than one occasion.   What better time would there be to go camping?

Back in the day, Dave was an avid backpacker and camper.  Primitive camping was one of his favorite pastimes, and he wanted to share that experience with me.  Mery, the one who hates nature for the most part.  The way Dave spun it, we would just slap on our cross country skis and head up the Racquette River to find a nice spot to camp on the ice.  He had all the necessities to be comfortable, or so he said.  “I have two mummy bags.  One is a twenty degree and the other is a zero degree bag.  You can have that one and you will stay toasty.”   Right.  Toasty… with just a Therm-a-rest pad and a sleeping bag between me and a block of ice.

Somehow, one of Dave’s fraternity brothers, aka the future Best Man in our wedding, managed to convince his girlfriend, aka one of my BFFs, to go on the adventure too.   Around 4pm we packed up our 50lb packs and headed out.  Unfortunately Julie did not have cross country skis at school, so she had to hike it up river to our campsite while the rest of us glided along the top of the snow.  I had to admit, it was beautiful.  The entire river was covered in white powder snow, and you could not tell where water ended and the mini islands peppered throughout began.  The snow covering the tree limbs were like winter leaves.  The air was crisp and the only sound was the whoosh whoosh of our skis.  Well, and the sound of Julie clomping through the foot and a half of snow.   It was quite a workout and warmth was not an issue yet.

We reached what seemed to be a good spot and started to set up camp.  We must have traveled at least a mile up river, completely secluded from any and all other signs of life, except for nature.  Since we were so close to the North Pole in the dead of winter, it was already starting to get dark.  I took off my pack and while Dave and Adam set up the tents, Julie and I went foraging for dead sticks and twigs for our toasty fire.  We gathered as much dead stuff as we could and made a nice little pile.  We are women, hear us roar.

The tents were set up and we threw all of our belongings inside to protect them from the elements.  It has started to snow as the sun was setting.  The sweat from our skiing workout had started to freeze and the umpteen layers I was wearing were not keeping me the least bit warm.  Next step was starting the camp fire.  This is the part of the story where Jack London’s To Build a Fire comes to mind.  The only difference was he was fighting to survive in sub zero weather and we were there by choice, like idiots.  For one reason or another ( I think I may have blocked this part out) we could not get the fire started.  The guys tried every trick in the book with no success.  We did have one other heat source, sort of.  

Dave broke out his camping stove, which looked  more like a Bunsen Burner with a piece of tin foil attached, and a tube going from a canister to the bottom of the contraption.  Time for dinner.  Our appetizer was corn beef hash out of the can.  Don’t get me wrong, I like corn beef hash as much as the next person, but there is something about eating it straight from the can it is stored in.  No crispy fried edges, just mush.   As the main course we ate baked beans in a can.  Our dessert was potato chips.  Not one of the more nutritious meals I ever had in my lifetime, but it worked.

With no fire or light, we all sat around in the dark with our headlamps on laughing at how ridiculous our situation was.  After about twenty minutes, or maybe 7pm, we decided to turn in for the night.  My thought was, at least if I was going to die of frost bite or hypothermia, it would be while sleeping.  I jumped into my sleeping bag and waited for the zero degree bag to do its magic.  Stupid sleeping bag did nothing of the sort.  The only way I was generating any heat was from shivering to the point of convulsions.  I was not going to quit.  Dave would see how tough I was, even if it killed me.

I must have fallen asleep, because the next thing I heard was Julie calling my name.  It was around midnight and she and Adam were calling it quits and heading back to civilization.  She asked if she could borrow my skis and she would leave her hiking boots for me.  In a semi comma, I agreed to the trade.  Adam and Julie were off and the two lone crazies were out on the frozen river.

I woke up at first light, as did Dave.  As we started rolling up the sleeping bags, I remembered Julie had taken my skis and I was going to have to hoof it back a mile or so through the knee high snow.  What my brain did not remind me of in my sleeping agreement was Julie’s feet were at least a size and a half smaller than mine.   I crammed my feet into her boots and finished packing up all the gear.  We started back to town.  Again, the only sound was Dave’s whoosh whoosh and my clomp clomp “Ouch”.  It took what seemed like hours to get back to the house.  The first thing I did when we got inside was take off the foot-binding hiking boots.   I then crawled into my bed hibernated for the remainder of the weekend. 

As much as I love Dave, I have never gone winter camping with him since.  Come to think of it, Dave has not gone either.   He definitely got his payback from Halloween.  Well played, Sir.

Sticks and Stones and Ride-on Toys

It is amazing, the lengths a younger sibling will go just to impress the older sibling.  Ethan follows his big brother, Zach, around like a shadow.  Most of the time, Zach enjoys the attention, as well as the role of demigod.  The power does get to his head at times and accidents tend to happen.

It was just another Sunday morning.  Dave and I were watching CBS Sunday Morning and the boys were playing outside on their plasma cars or bikes as usual.  The two little boys across the street were over as well.  With everyone on some sort of toy with wheels, riding in a circle, they look a lot like Shriners, minus the burgundy hat with the gold tassel.   To be honest, our house regularly resembles a 3-ring circus anyways.   All we need is an elephant and a midget (I’m sorry, little person) clown, and we can take our show on the road.

All of a sudden, we heard Ethan screaming outside and it was getting louder as he approached the door.   He is usually the first one in when something goes awry between the four boys.  This happens more often than Dave and I like, because that means someone is going to be tattling on someone else, and we want them to handle their issues on their own.   This particular scream sounded different, and Dave and I were both on our feet before Ethan even got through the door.  “I hurt myself!!!!  I hurt myself, " Ethan whimpered as he ran toward me while grabbing his left arm.  Keep in mind, Ethan hurts himself a lot so I take these situations with a grain of salt.  He always a bruise or a gash of some kind. 

Semi concerned I asked him, “How did you hurt yourself?”  I couldn’t see any sign of an injury.  “I fell.”  That’s all I could get out of him.  “I fell.”  I asked him how he fell.  I got nothing but, “I just did,” as I wipe the tears from his cheeks.   I knew who to ask next.  “ZAAAAAACH!”     Zachary came running in breathless and sweaty, “I don’t know how it happened.  He just fell!”  I could tell I was not going to get the full story now, maybe ever.  Dave and I were frustrated because we were not getting any information, as usual, and Ethan showed no signs of being hurt, other than the crying.  We wrote it off as Ethan staying up too late the night before and had him lay on the couch with me to calm down.  We went about our day.  Ethan fell asleep on the coach watching a movie.  Zach was back outside playing with the neighbor kids.

Sometime in the afternoon, just before dinner, Dave thought it would be a good idea to play soccer in the front yard as a family.  Flashback to the circus reference.   We were all laughing and kicking the ball around for a while.  Just as Dave was about to go in to cook dinner, Ethan fell, again.  He started to howl and was grabbing his same arm again.  “It hurts, it really hurts!”  I asked him to put his hand above his head, remembering back to the day I broke my wrist, and my inability to raise up my hand.  He did it, but only kept it up for a matter of seconds.  Uh-oh.  He broke it.  I was looking at his arm and still, no sign of an injury.

I ran inside and called Urgent Care, to get their opinion on whether I should take him there or to the Emergency Room.  They recommended taking him to the Emergency Room since they had not only the X-ray, but also the capability to set his arm if needed.  I hung up the phone, and this is where my nomination for Mother of the Year was revoked for 2011.  Ethan is a grubby boy.  I compare him to Pigpen from the Peanuts often.  He had been playing all weekend and I was not going to take him in public until he was clean, especially if they were going to be putting a cast on his arm.

“Ethan, we need to take a bath.  Your arm will feel better.”  So I lied, but at least he’d be clean.  My poor little boy went upstairs, left arm dangling, and I drew the bath for him.   While moaning, he jumped in the tub and I scrubbed him as fast as I could.  I even tried to touch his arm a couple times to see if I could feel anything, but still nothing, except a scream each time I tried to touch him.  I got him out of the tub, got him dressed, and into the car.  Off to the ER we went.  The entire time Ethan was crying, “I don’t want a shot.  I don’t want to go.  They’re going to give me a shot!”  For the 6 minutes it took to get to the hospital I told Ethan he was not getting a shot at least 50 times.  He wasn't buying it.

I parked in the lot outside the ER and pried Ethan from his booster seat.  We got inside and fortunately, the Emergency Room was not crowded.  Still carrying Ethan, I walked up to the desk and set him down to get out my insurance card.  It was buried deep in my wallet, and I had to take out everything.  An identity thief's dream, all spread out on the counter.  Just then, Ethan bolted for the door.  I looked at him, looked at all my credit cards on the counter, then looked at the nurse behind the desk as if I were waiting for her instructions.  "GO!" she said to me and I left my purse and all of it's contents right there to chase my terrified boy out of the electric sliding glass door.

I suppose Ethan didn't think any further ahead than running out of the doors, because when I got to him, he was stopped right outside, too afraid to cross the street without holding an adult's hand.  Phew.  We walked back inside and he sat on my lap while the triage nurse took all of our information and completed my forms for me.  Within minutes we were in the back in a room.  He looked so little in that big bed,  I was on the verge of tears.  When we were alone in the room, he would start to cry, but as soon as a nurse or doctor walked in the room he would man up, and act like a tough little trooper.  I was seeing my 4 year old as a little man.  My big boy followed the nurse to the room where he was getting his x-rays, and followed directions like a champ.

After we were back in the room for about 10 minutes, the ER doctor came in to give us the news.  Ethan had a buckle fracture on his left arm.  Evidently, when children are young, their bones don't necessarily break.  They bend.  Gross, I know.  By this time, there was bruising, but I swear there wasn't any until now or we would have been there so much faster!  Again, Mother of the Year would have to wait until 2012.  They splinted him up and gave him the cutest little sling.  We had an appointment set up for us the next morning at the orthopedic doctor's office.

Ethan was smiling for the first time since that morning, still sitting in the hospital bed, wearing his sling.  I asked why he was so happy after finding out he broke is arm and he said, "No shots!"

The next morning we went to get his cast.  I didn't even make him change his shirt for fear of injuring him more, so he got to wear his favorite Sponge Bob shirt two days in a row.  He was in Heaven...except for the broken arm thing, of course.  As far as the cast went, he had his pick of the rainbow for a color.  Back in my day, you didn't have your choice of fancy colors. You got white, which turned dingy in a few days.  When the doctor asked him what his favorite color was, I cringed knowing what his answer would be.

After the doctor visit, I took Ethan straight to daycare where he was greeted like a rockstar.  All the little girls were swooning and the boys were jealous of the new accessory.  "What happened, Ethan?" My toughy little guy said, "Fell playin' soccer."  

  

At the end of the day when we were all home and finished dinner, I heard Zach talking to Ethan in the other room.  "Ethan, I am so sorry.  I am really really sorry.  I didn't mean for you to hurt yourself."  I then heard Ethan say, "It's ok Zach, my cast is really cool AND orange."  I was finally getting the whole story.  The boys had tied all of their ride-on toys together to make a "train" and had Ethan "go first" as all little brothers do.  He fell, and broke his arm.  I never reprimanded Zach for what he coerced his brother into doing, because he had enough guilt on his own.  Just hearing their dialogue from the other room made me realize, I may not be mother of the year, but I must have been doing something right.

My Other Half

The spring semester of college had just ended, and I was supposed to be a member of the graduating class of 1995 from SUNY Potsdam.  The universe had other plans for me.  I didn't actually graduate until my super-duper senior year, or 1997.  My mom always said I was a late bloomer.  My  dad said he was tired of paying for expensive sleep-away camp.  With their words lingering in my head, I decided to stay in Potsdam for the summer and I was going to find myself.  Who knew I would find my future husband as well? 

I moved into my first apartment off campus, where in the fall, I would remain for my super senior year.  It was a duplex on Bay Street with just a two minute walk to the Raquette River and a five minute walk to the bars.  Oh, and a ten minute walk to campus.  Priorities.  The landlord allowed me to store all my belongings in the garage while I waited for the previous tenants to move their stuff out.  When I got the green light to start moving in, I didn’t hesitate.  I started moving things back and forth from the garage into the house 15 minutes after I received the call. 

On my third trip in through the back door, there was a guy standing in the doorway between the kitchen and the living room.  He was resting both of his arms above his head on the trim of the doorway, leaning with his hip cocked to one side.  What was this weirdo doing in my house?  “How ya doin'? I’m Dave.”  Uh-huh.  “Hey, Dave, what are you doing in here?” I asked, looking around to see if there are any more of them.  “I just moved out.  The landlord says I need to paint the kitchen to get my deposit back.”  Well, that would have been nice to know ahead of time.   I said, “Do whatcha gotta do then Dave,” and proceeded to move my things toward my new bedroom.  “Oh hey, is that your room?  That was my old room.”  Fantastic.  Note to self: Buy Lysol.

Since my roommates for fall semester weren’t coming until September, I needed to find squatters for a couple months.  Turns out there are all kinds of people who stay in town for the summer.  It’s a totally different place when school is not in session.  Within days I had roommates.  I had also taken in a stray cat, which turns out, was pregnant.  A few weeks later I had 2 roommates, a stray cat, and 5 kittens.   The other side of the duplex was only separated by a door, which was always open, so it was like living in one big house.  We all split the cable and phone bills 8 ways which meant less cash advances off of my credit card at a 19.9% APR.

I was having a blast, despite having no job and a daily morning wakeup call from the credit card company who was dumb enough to give me any credit.  There was always something to do.  Being in the foothills of the Adirondacks and having friends with cars was very convenient.   A friend of mine was planning on going on a bike ride with her boyfriend and asked if I wanted to tag along.  Of course!  We went outside to find her boyfriend standing with another guy.  Him again?  “Mery, do you know Dave?”  I explained how we met a week or so prior when he was trespassing in order to paint my kitchen.   Dave had moved across the street from me into his fraternity house with a few other guys who stuck around for the summer.

Turns out Dave and I had a lot of fun together.  We had a great friendship.  Our senses of humor were practically identical.  Mutual friends would joke that I was him in a girl body and he was me in a boy body.  Goofy, yes.  But oh so very true.  We would go on bike rides, hang out by the river at a nearby beach, or just sit around and listen to music.  We invented our own Olympic event, the lighter toss.   If we had gotten the Olympic committee to recognize our sport, we could have represented the USA in the 1996 Summer Games in Atlanta.  No one was as good at it as we were, and we would scoff at anyone who tried to reach our level of aptitude.  

Everyone else would be returning in 2 weeks for school and the Potsdam fantasy summer was drawing to a close.  That may have been what prodded me into my next move.  In my own not-so-stealth, awkward way, I confronted Dave in the party room of his fraternity during an after-hours party around 2:30am.  “So, there’s something I want to tell you.”   Dave turned to look at me with his smoldering bloodshot eyes.  “Oh yeah?  I have been meaning to tell you something too.”   I stumbled a little closer and screamed above White Zombie playing in the background, “I kind of have a crush on you!”  He gave me a wry smile.

It’s now 16 years later and we are still together, always trying to make each other laugh.  I am still Dave in a girl body, and Dave is still me in a boy body.

Everybody Poops

Spring in North Carolina is more like the Sahara Desert in the dead of summer.  Yes, we have air conditioning, but not on the practice fields.   It was just another spring evening when Ethan was finishing up his soccer practice.  The temperature at 6:30pm was still in the upper 90s, and I was still in my work attire.  The heat and blazing sun were turning my black Tahari Notched Collar pant suit into a full blown SCUBA suit.  Zachary was sitting in the car with the air conditioning on, playing Zelda on his Nintendo DS.  I was not only watching the soccer practice, in the hopes my little 4 year old Pele would pull off some bicycle kick, but I was also watching Zach in the running air conditioned car with equal focus.  I can only compare my head movements to a spectator of a highly competitive tennis match. Everyone else, 40. Me? Love.

Soccer practice ended and despite the 2 water bottles Ethan went through in an hour, he was still bright red and sweatier than any 4 year old should be. “Mom, can we go to Brewster’s?” Brewster’s is an ice cream place less than a mile from our house.  I say, “Absolutely!”  I have earned it.  We walk to the car and I help Ethan get buckled up in his booster seat.   Zach says, “Wow, you guys are sweaty.”  Well thanks, Dr. Obvious, for making that statement after you just spent the last 45 minutes in the 68 degrees car enjoying your hand held distraction while we were out in the direct sun, panting to keep cool like dogs.    I chose another retort for my 7 year old, “Yes, we are sweaty.”

We arrive at Brewster’s and each of us gets our usual.   Zach gets his small cake batter ice cream in a cone after the obligatory 2 minute argument between a small or a large.  He barely ever finishes the small, why on earth would I allow a large?  Ethan gets his “big boy” cone with cotton candy ice cream (ew!) with sugar eyes and sprinkles for hair.  I have to call it the big boy cone when ordering, while pointing out his height to the person taking his order.   If I call it by its real term, a baby cone, he won’t eat it, and I'll have to pay for his.  The girl hands me my small mint chocolate chip in a sugar cone.  I pay and the boys and I go to the back where there are benches for us, so the ice cream will melt and drip in our laps instead of falling to the concrete.  We pick a bench next to a nice looking couple in their late twenties, sitting with their bulldog.  All three are enjoying their frozen treats.

Ethan’s big boy cone is the smallest, so he finishes first.  Zach and I are still wrestling with ours when Ethan says, “Is there a bathroom here?”  Uh-oh.  I have been down this road before with Ethan. As a matter of fact, I once caught him relieving himself in the bushes at this very establishment.   “No, Ethan, there is not bathroom, why?”  In his little sing songy voice he says, “I have to go poo-oop.”  Both Zach and I jump off the bench, “OK, let’s go!”  As we start walking to the car, in order to avoid a potential disaster, Ethan then says, “Wait. No, it went back in.”

My eyes were as wide as soccer balls when I slowly turned my head to the left to look at the charming couple sitting next to us.  The man is laughing hysterically, and the woman is oblivious. “I am so sorry” I say to the man, not knowing whether to laugh or cry.  The man says, “No worries. The same thing happens to me.”  I laugh uncomfortably.  He turns to his companion, tells her the story, and then she cackles.   If the bulldog could understand human speak, he probably would have been laughing too.  

Rules are Posted for a Reason

I was 12 when I broke my first appendage. Most children would be grateful and behaved if their parents brought them on an annual vacations to paradise. Karma is a bitch. Growing up, our family went to Puerto Rico every Thanksgiving. We would forgo the turkey and fixin’s and replace them with Domino’s Pizza or mofungo. I have a lot of great memories of that island, and only a couple not-so-great ones.

It was just another day at the pool, 88 degrees and sunny. There was a light breeze and the water was more cold than refreshing for my taste. All the retired snow birds, with their thick NY/NJ accents, were basking in the sun, adding another layer of leather to their already tanned hides. My brother and I were the fairest of them all. Literally. Before 100SPF sun block, there was zinc oxide. My mother would apply it to our faces like we were some bizarre tribe of pale people. Not my sister though. She was blessed with my father’s skin. Every year she looked native within two days of being in P.R., and little Puerto Rican children would approach her and speak to her in Spanish.

Bingo would be starting up in an hour or so. Oh how I loved Bingo. One dollar got you a card and a chance to win money or bottles of rum (which my parents were hoping for). And the money pot was big, especially for a 12 year old. It would range from $20 to $150 or more! Every year either my sister or I would win at least 2 times in a week and really piss off the “residents” who lived there for months out of the year, playing every day, rain or shine.

As I was basking in the shade, listening to Midnight Oil on my Walkman, my brother came up and ripped my towel out from under me. Oh heck no. He started to fast-walk away from me and I was right on his tail. This is the point in the story where I must remind you of the #1 rule at any swimming pool. NO RUNNING! My brother burst into a full sprint and was still right behind him. He ran down the steps of the entrance covered in that green indoor-outdoor carpeting.  I was right behind him. Sort of.  I missed a step and fell down five, landing upside-down and backwards against the thick iron gate that keeps trespassers out after hours.

Ouch, my whole body hurt. I stood up and realized I could not lift up my left arm. My hand was just dangling down there with no hope of lifting it even to waist height. My brother was gone, off hiding somewhere, knowing he would either receive the wrath of me, or one of our parents for (1) Running at the pool, and (2) Breaking his sister’s wrist.  OK, he didn’t break my wrist, but that was the way I saw it at the time.  I panicked.  I ran to the elevator to go up to our room on the 8th floor, where my mom had gone to get more zinc oxide. When I say ran, it was more like a gorilla run, swinging both arms side to side below my knees, and moaning from the pain I was in. Yep, can’t say we didn’t evolve from the apes.

When I got up to our room, I rang the bell, and no Mom. A housekeeping woman saw me, ran over, and unlocked the door for me. I went inside, no Mom. We must have passed each other on the different elevators without me knowing.  “¿Esta bien?” the woman asked me, trying to calm me down as best as she could.  “¡NO! No estoy bien. Estoy mal, really really mal!”  I moan, as I gorilla run back to the elevator bank. I finally find my mom, back at the pool, sitting next to my brother, who is crying. She sees me from the other side and gets up and doesn't run to me.

My parents were hesitant to take me to a Puerto Rican hospital.  Please keep in mind, it was the 80’s and the ‘Rico was not as progressive as it is today.  Fortunately Angel and Puppy, the lifeguards at the pool, were trained in first aid.  Yes, that is what I needed, first aid.  Who needs a hospital and x-rays when you have 2 fully capable lifeguards?  They ace bandaged my wrist and gave me a handkerchief sling and send me on my way.  We were leaving for home the next day, and my parents thought it would be better to wait until we got back to the States before we went to the hospital.

Turned out, our flights were delayed, and it took us an extra day to get home. Do you have any idea how much turbulence on a plane can hurt a person?  I didn’t until SJU to JFK, then JFK to SYR.  By the time I got to an emergency room, it was 3 days post injury.  The Dr. said I was “lucky” that they didn’t have to reset the bone. Lucky? Hmph.

The Pirate and the Vampire

Until this year, it was Blank family tradition to have the whole family walking the streets on Halloween, snapping photos and stealing Snickers out of the kids' pumpkin buckets when they weren’t looking.  I remember going out as a kid and hitting up the houses with the full-sized candy bars first.  The same holds true for me today, only the full-sized candy bar has transformed into an ice cold Miller Lite.  The great thing about the neighborhoods we trick-or-treat in, the parents get treats as well.   This year, we make the decision (actually my husband, Dave makes the decision) to have Dave stay home and pass out candy to the measly 4 kids who actually come to our house while I go out with the boys.

We start on our street for the low hanging fruit then head over to one other cul-de-sac in our neighborhood (where I get my first “treat”) before crossing over into the Birkdale neighborhood.  Birkdale has sidewalks and street lights, which lowers our odds of a road pizza vampire or pirate.  We make it through about 8 houses when Ethan says, “My legs hurt.  I QUIT.  Humph.” Crosses his arms and turns his back to me.  My little pot-bellied pirate has had enough.  I cannot blame him, he has already racked up enough booty to last him weeks.  Zach and I walk Ethan home and drop him off so he can help Dave pass out candy.  He gets home and Dave says, “Wow Ethan, look at all that candy!  Let’s pick something out”.  Dave dumps the entire stash out on the kitchen table and spreads it all out so Ethan can have his pick.  Ethan takes a good long look at his options and says, “I no like any of that.  We got any chips?”

Meanwhile, somewhere in Birkdale…

Zachary and I are making a lot more headway now that we dropped the 3 year old grumpy pirate.  Zach says, “Mom, can I have a piece of my candy now?”  I tell him no.  This cycle goes on at least 5-7 times.  I tell him, no eating candy until we get home.  I need to inspect it and make sure there are no razor blades or poison in the candy.  Really, has anyone ever actually heard of an instance of poison or razor blades, or was that our parents' way of freaking us out as a children???  Zach is off to the next house.  I wait on the sidewalk, Zach walks up to a house rings the bell, says “trick or treat” and the man gives him a piece of candy.  Zach is holding the candy in his hands almost as if he is studying it.  He then looks up at the man and asks, “Is there poison in here? Did you poison your candy?”  The man, not sure if he is hurt or offended, says “I have 3 children of my own, I would never do that.”   Zach turns to me holds up the peanut butter cup above his head and yells, “MOM, HEAR THAT?  NO POISON!  CAN I EAT IT??”  I smile and give a queen’s wave to the man and say, “Happy Halloween!”

Next year "we" will make the decision for me to stay home while Dave takes the boys out.

The First Field Trip

The year Zachary started Kindergarten was also the year he started religious classes.  Dave and I agreed before we got married we would raise our children Jewish, since I was the lesser of the religiously apathetic in our interfaith marriage   This was also around the time we had to put our long time pet and family member, Sampson, to sleep.  Explaining death to a 5 year old is not easy.  I told Zach that Sampson went to be with God.  That one statement caused my little boy to ask more questions than he ever had up to this point.  Zach is very inquisitive anyways, but this catapulted him into investigative reporting mode.  "Who is God?  Where does he live?  How can he be everywhere?  Can he see me right now?  Does he watch me go potty?"  You get the idea.  I was stumped.  Since it was so difficult for Dave and I to explain theology to a 5 year old, we joined a congregation that offered religious classes for children from Pre-K up until Bar/Bat Mitzvah.   It was our hope that he would learn more about God, and Judaism and have the strong moral base needed to be successful as an adult.

It just so happened that Zach's first field trip ever would be with his new religious school.  All the classes were going to a local retirement home to visit with the residents and give the children a sense of what volunteerism can do.  The Pre-K and Kindergarten classes were combined and provided light entertainment for the audience.  They sang.  For the most part, the residents were enjoying their company and either tolerating or not hearing the music that was being sung by the 4, 5 and 6 year olds.

One woman in the front row was not as captivated as the others.  It seems she dozed off while listening to the melodic sounds of the sweet angels performing for her.  Zach noticed her, slightly slumped over with her eyes closed.  "OH MY GOD SHE'S DEAD!!"  The next sound anyone would hear was the screaming of 20 children running in all directions, knocking over end tables and running into each other.

I am not sure how they did it, but the teachers managed to corral the children and take them out into the hall to settle down.  They explained that the woman was indeed not dead, but resting.  It took a few minutes to convince the kids they were not performing for a corpse.  After a while they all paraded back into the room and began where they left off.  Needless to say, the woman in the front row was bright-eyed watching every last bit of the performance.

This story was told to me when I went to pick up Zach after they returned from their field trip.  It took the teacher two times as long as it should have to tell me the story because she could not keep herself composed long enough to get out a sentence.  I am going to venture a guess, and say that was the most excitement that place had seen in a while.