Then He Raked Me

*Warning: Contents of this entry may be disgusting to some readers. Discretion is advised.*

I always knew I wanted to be a mom. According to the life plan I created for myself in my tween years, I would be married by 27 and have my first baby by 30. Who knew my adolescent self would be so prophetic.

Three days before my 29^th birthday, I took a pregnancy test and learned I was pregnant. I am sure most of my feelings were hormone induced, but still valid. Feelings of joy, excitement, anxiety, anticipation and fear were washing over me all at the same time. Up to this point, I hadn’t even been able to keep a plant alive.

The first few months were rough. I slept with saltine crackers and ginger ale on my nightstand. Brushing my teeth without gagging was an accomplishment. Chicken was no longer a food option for me. I didn’t care what form it was in. Raw or cooked. Grilled or Fried. Nuggets or Strips. It was all nasty. The smell alone would throw me into a lurching spiral. Once the morning/afternoon/night sickness subsided, I had a near perfect pregnancy. Even though I was feeling better, I was still disgusted by chicken and didn’t eat it for almost a year after having the baby.

The ultrasound pictures were something I kept with my at all times to show off my creation. I suppose Dave helped with the creating part, but I wasn’t giving him much credit. My tiny being was morphing from a lima bean to a replica of the Planters Peanut Man. All it needed was the top hat and monocle. Then, at around 15 weeks, we got a profile shot of the baby. For the first time, it really looked human.

You may notice I am referring to my own child as “it”. We did not want to find out the sex of the baby before it was born because we wanted to be surprised. That, and I thought it was fun to drive everyone crazy. “What do you mean you aren’t going to find out??” Of course we were going to find out what we were having, just not until the little bugger popped out. People would ask Dave and me, “Do you want a girl or a boy?” Dave always answered with the same canned response, “I don’t care as long as it’s a healthy baby.” And I would add, “Right. As long as it’s a healthy baby girl.”

Months passed and I was really enjoying being pregnant. It didn’t prohibit me from living my life. My first trip to Las Vegas was when I was 5 months along. Granted, I could not drink or smoke, but watching everyone else was almost as entertaining. Almost. Dave and I spent time in Southern California with friends. I even played golf. At 6 months, my mom and I flew to Paris to meet my sister. She was flying from Ukraine where she was stationed for the Peace Corp. Again, nothing was stopping me from enjoying myself, except for my dietary restrictions. At every meal, my mom and sister would order wine. My sister ordered a cheese plate at least once a day. I was not allowed to drink the fabulous wines or eat the exotic cheeses. Ordering Crème Brule at every meal was my way of compensating. It did the trick.

As my due date was approaching my sleep habits were truly out of sorts. I could no longer sleep in the bed because I would end up using Dave as a support to keep from rolling over, and I was getting up every 15 minutes to pee. The couch was my new sanctuary, if you can even call it that. At least I was able to lie on my side and rest against the back in between the urgent trips to the toilet.

Three days after my due date I was having a lot of cramps. I had been having them for weeks but these seemed more frequent. Around 8am, I made Dave take a walk around the block with me to see if that would help. I was more annoyed than alarmed, and called my friend at work to complain. She asked me if I had been timing the cramps, and I told her no. They were just cramps, why should I time them? It took a conversation with my friend to come to the conclusion that I may actually be in labor. Upon making this revelation, I discovered that the “cramps” were occurring in 3-7 minute intervals. I called the doctor’s office and they told me to call back when they were 3-5 minutes apart. This made no sense to me if they were already 3 minutes in some instances, so I voiced my concern. I am sure they knew what they were talking about, as this was an every day, 100 times a day thing for them, but I still felt it would be best for me to go in and get checked out. The office assistant reluctantly told me to come in.

Since this was our first baby, we had everything ready to go. The packed bag with the birthing plan (what a joke…and a waste of time) was already in the trunk of the car. I decided since there was no real sense of urgency, it would be ok to load the dishwasher, take a shower and shave my legs. Dave and I then hopped in the car to start our 45 minute car ride to the doctor’s office. The entire time we were joking about how this was going to be a false alarm and we were go feel so stupid when they told us to go home.

We arrived around 11am and were escorted back into one of the exam rooms. My Ob/Gyn came in the room and Dave and I were laughing and apologizing for wasting her time. While she was conducting her invasive exam, Dave and I looked at each other in silence, rolling our eyes. The doc then said, “Well, you are 6 cm dilated and 100% effaced and if I keep poking around in there your water is going to break. You can head straight to the hospital and get your epidural. We will call ahead to let them know you are on your way.”

It was at that moment I realized I hadn’t eaten anything that day so I asked her, “Can we stop at the Wendy’s drive-thru on the way since it’s right across the street?” The woman looked at both me a Dave (Dave had lost all color in his face with the news) then said, “Um, no you cannot stop at Wendy’s drive-thru. Get to the hospital. I knew it was going to be a long day.

Five minutes later we were walking through the doors of Carolinas Medical Center - Pineville and making our way to the maternity ward desk. I walked up to the desk and said, “Hi, I’m Merydith Blank. I believe you’ve been “expecting me”, and let out a loud cackle. I am my best audience most times. The woman behind the desk said, “You’re the one who’s 6 cm already? You’re awfully cheerful for being on the verge of delivering a baby.” What was she talking about? I wasn’t even in pain. Yet.

I got settled into my spacious room with a view. We had our own little private patio directly outside of our room. Turns out I would not step foot onto the patio, nor did I have any desire to. The nurse came in and determined I was now at 8cm. Things were moving along quickly. I still felt very little pain. The nurse actually talked me out of an epidural. I was given a dose of Stadol instead, and was told it would take the edge off. It felt like I had drunk 5 margaritas in 5 minutes. I was wasted. Dave and I were still cracking jokes with each other then all of a sudden there was a harsh pain coming from the depths. I let out a groan and Dave said something stupid, I cannot remember what it was now. I just remember telling him to shut the hell up to which the nurse replied, “OK Dad, now is the time when Mom isn’t going to things are quite as funny.” No joke. All of a sudden, I was ready to rip his head off. Why did I let that woman talk me out of the epidural? What kind of sick and twisted sadist was I dealing with?

The doctor on call was not my regular OB/Gyn, but I had met him during my rotational visits in the last couple months of appointments. He seemed like a nice enough guy. When he walked in to check on my progress and saw I was 9cm dilated he asked me, “Why didn’t you get an epidural?” Well, Dr. Jerkface, young Nurse Naturalist thought I could handle the pain. I asked him if it was too late, and by the grace of God, he said it was not. He had the anesthesiologist paged to set it up. Meanwhile, my baby was already standing apart from the crowd and had flipped into posterior position, something that only happens in 4-10% of all births. Not Breech, but sunny side up. Even though it was still head first, it was facing up instead of down. In my drunken stupor, he had me get on all fours facing the wall and proceeded to try to flip the baby back into normal position. All I could do was laugh at the thought of the picture anyone was seeing if they happened to walk by the door. I turned to look at Dave and noticed a room full of concerned doctors and nurses scurrying around the room. “Wha’s goin’ on?” I slurred.

After all the drama, more drama ensued. I had the epidural, but despite Dr Big Hand’s efforts, the baby was still posterior, and stuck. With every contraction, its heartbeat went down. We all came to the conclusion that the best plan of attack was a C-section. They prepped the O.R., the prepped Dave, and they prepped me.

I was wheeled into the O.R. and laying flat on my back with my arms outstretched on either side of me. I felt like a drunken knocked up cheerleader making a “T” on the table. Dave and the Dr. were nowhere to be found. I later learned they were talking Wisconsin football in the hallway. Seriously?? They finally made their way into the room and the surgery was about to begin. All of a sudden, in my field of vision, I see a fly dancing around on the Dr’s side of the blue sheet. Of course I had to make a comment. “I don’t think that’s very sanitary.” The doctor retorted with, “It’s all a figment of your imagination, Merydith.” Yeah right. There was a fly.

After a grueling 30 minutes of “a little pressure”, which caused me to vomit into a kidney shaped bowl out of the side of my mouth (good thing I didn't stop at Wendy's), while still lying on my back, the baby was out. At 6:32 pm on July 11^th 2003, the doctor lifted up the baby with its genitals (the baby’s not the doctor’s) clearly in Dave’s face so there was no mistake made and said, “Call it, Dad.” Dave said, “Mery, we have a beautiful baby boy.” I’ll be honest, I was disappointed. I knew I was having a girl. I would have bet my life on it. What did I know about boys? This was all wrong. I wanted them to check again. How could this be happening? Maybe if he put him back in and tried again, a girl would pop out?

As the doctor was finishing up pushing my intestines back into my body cavity, Dave brought our baby boy over to my head, still woozy and aching from all the events of the day. I am referring to me, not the baby. Dave said, “Mery, look at him.” I turned my head and there we were, face-to-face. His little arm had broken free of the swaddled blanket and his tiny hand reached out and raked my right eye. It was over. I was in love. He was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. “I made that” is all I could get out as I sobbed. Dave laughed at me. I then corrected myself. “We made that.” 

 Zachary Lawrence Blank 

Born 7/11/03, 7lbs 15oz

 

North Carolina or Bust

Living in New York State for the first 23 years of my life was a good opportunity for me to recognize how much I hated cold weather.  Sure, the activities are fun.  Skating, skiing, and snowball fights are great, but they do not outweigh the gray days filled with icky slushy gray snow and bad driving conditions.  My friends and family all lived in NYS as well.  Leaving them would be one the most difficult choices I ever had to make in my life.  Of course I was going to miss my family.  But my girlfriends, both from growing up and from college, were and still are some of the brightest, strongest, most self assured, supportive, beautiful women a person could have as allies.  I didn’t think I would ever find anyone else like them…ever.

After graduating from college, I knew I could not remain in this nearly sub zero climate.  I needed to make a drastic change.  Dave and I had been dating for 2 years and we knew that we wanted to start a life together.  Figuring out where that life would be was still undetermined.  I knew I wanted to move south.  Dave had actually graduated a year before me and was living in Raleigh, NC with one of his fraternity brothers.  I went to visit them and scoped out the area.  I decided the Research Triangle was not for me.  It seemed so sanitary and in every direction there was a new strip mall.  It suited Dave’s needs at the time, because he was attending North Carolina State University for the final class he needed in order to receive his diploma.  He then moved to Wilmington, NC with the same brother, where during spring break 1997, Dave broke his leg in Myrtle Beach and ultimately went home to Buffalo to heal.  I only mention this because all of his belongings were still in Wilmington.  Well, and to mention what a goofball my husband is, since I take any opportunity available to throw jabs at him.  BAM!

I decided to live at home the summer after graduation so I could save money to move wherever Dave and I decided.  It’s funny how I have lived in NC for 15 years, and I still call Skaneateles “home”.  That summer was the last time living with my parents.  Both a sad and liberating feeling rolled into one.  One evening after I got home from work at the local office supply store, Dave and I were on the phone.  “If you don’t like Raleigh, is there somewhere else you had in mind?”  I really had no idea where to go; I just knew where I didn’t want to be.  Dave said, “What about Charlotte?”  I pulled up Charlotte on the newest and greatest thing since sliced bread, the internet.  The first image I saw was of the skyline, with the Nations Bank (now Bank of America) building towering above all the other skyscrapers.  “I’m in.  I am going to work in that really tall building.  I don’t know what they do there, but I am sure I can figure it out.”  I had never lived in a city before.  I went from my rural town of Skaneateles, NY (population of maybe 2500) to the larger town of Potsdam, NY (population 9000).  I never had any sort of diversity in my life.  A city would give me so much more flavor.  Moving to a metropolis like Charlotte (population at the time 500,000) was big time in my mind! 

Dave and I moved to Charlotte in August of 1997 with no jobs and no place to live.  My parents (mom) had agreed to let Dave and I live together, as long as we had a 2 bedroom apartment.  Not sure of her logic, other than putting her mind at ease, that I would remain pure as the driven New York State snow if we had 2 bedrooms.  Since I would be moving down with all of my belongings, my parents (amazing people that they have always been) drove down to Charlotte a couple days before Dave and I in order to research our options for apartment complexes.  They were narrowing down the large list for us so we didn’t need to traipse around the city with a rented SUV full of my most prized possessions.  Do you have any idea the going rate of a Rob Base and DJ EZ Rock CD on the black market?  

Dave and I drove under the cover of night.  As we reached our 11^th hour of driving south on I-77, I could see the lonely Nations Bank building towering above the trees in the distance.  We arrived in Charlotte at 5am and proceeded to the hotel room where my parents were sleeping.  Both Dave and I crashed.

Around 9:30am we woke and were out the door inspecting the 3 apartments we were to choose from.  Everything in Charlotte was so new.  The apartments were so much nicer than anything in Potsdam.  It was like moving up a socioeconomic class without any effort.  All the places had beautiful kitchens and large bathrooms and they even balconies!

After 4 hours or touring, Dave and I went with option #3.  It was a lovely 2 bedroom on the east side of the city in a complex called Wellington Farms.  We signed our lease and were on our way back to the hotel to take a nap.  Before taking my nap, I called the phone company to set up a new number, only to find someone else had already called for that same apartment!  We called the complex and found out that they inadvertently rented OUR apartment to someone else and neglected to cross it off the list.

I was way too tired to deal with this, so Dave and my mom headed back to check out the other available apartments.  I drifted off into dreamland and when they returned, I was given quite a shock.  Dave said, “We got a one bedroom on the 3^rd floor.”  I was confused and looked at my mom.  She said, “You’re not the only tired one.  It was much nicer than the 2 bedroom, it’s on the top floor so no one will be stomping above you, and it overlooks the pond.  You’re welcome.” She flopped back down on one of the beds and was out instantly.

The next morning was moving day.  Fortunately for me, I had to have minor surgery prior to our drive south, so I couldn’t help with any of the heavy lifting.  As Dave and my 62 year old dad moved all the big stuff up 3 flights of stairs in 90 degree heat.  My mom and I carried up things like baskets and towels.

My parents left the next day and before Dave and I could go job hunting, we needed to drive to the coast to pick up all of his belongings; including his car, a 1988 powder blue Plymouth Horizon.  We rented a U-haul to make sure we could fit all of his treasures, including his tree stump coffee table.  OOOOF! 

We packed up the U-haul then spent a little quality time with Billy, Dave’s fraternity brother.  Before long we were back on the road.  I drove the U-haul with air conditioning.  Dave drove the Horizon sans A/C.  At our first rest stop he tried to convince me it wasn’t so bad driving with the windows down and asked if I wanted to trade.  “Dave, you are the color of a tomato and are beyond sweating.  If you think I am going to drive the last 2 hours in that thing you are nuts.”  A side note, Dave had to use that car to go on interviews.  He would drive close to the interview in a t-shirt and shorts, and stop at a nearby McDonalds to change into his suit, so he didn’t show up to the interview looking like a greasy used car salesman who has been trapped in a sauna for too long.  POW!

We were finally starting to settle into our first home together.  Our new place was so pretty, overlooking the Canadian geese swimming in the pond.  Little did we know that in 6 months, we would hear a gunshot coming from across the pond and look out to see a dead goose floating with feathers flying everywhere as if 5 pillows exploded.   Another 5 ½ months later, as Dave and I were walking with the complex manager to the look at larger available units, we passed a Charlotte Mecklenburg Police Crime Scene van.  It was at that moment we decided we needed to branch out a little.  Maybe move to a different part of town to experience new flavors. 

Fifteen years later, I am still working at one of Bank of America’s largest competitors in Charlotte.  I am so fortunate to have found another amazing group of women who have been there for me and supported me through so much.  Buffys unite!  We have a home in the burbs with central air that we will retire in.  And at the moment, both of our cars still have air conditioning…until Dave decides to fix something and blows a fuse.  ZOWIE! 

It Seemed Like a Good Idea

When school let out for summer last year, we thought it would be a nice idea to travel up to NY to spend some quality time with Dave’s parents in Buffalo, and then head east to do the same with my parents in Skaneateles.  Dave decided to save money by driving to NY rather than paying for airline tickets.  How bad could it be, right?  Bad.  It was an excellent reminder not to take car trips longer than 4 hours with kids.

Finding a place to board Kody, our Great Pyrenees, was proving to be a ridiculous task.  Everywhere we looked cost the same rate it would cost a human to stay.  When did all kennels turn into Waldorf Astoria’s?  A good friend of ours recommended we contact a man about an hour north of our home to board Kody.  He was right in our price range at $15/day.  His kennel was “right off of the highway” we would be taking for 11 hours to get to Buffalo.  We would just put the address into the mean lady, Garmin (she can be so condescending).  Dave and I debated over whether to take Kody up the day before our departure, but decided to make a cozy place for him on the floor in the back of the Maxima instead.  He could lay down at the kids’ feet for the brief hour drive.  That went over as well as it would have gone had we put him in the trunk, I imagine.

The cozy place for Kody in the wheel well turned out to be the cozy place for Zach.  I don’t think we even made it out of the county before Kody was up and climbing on the backseat with/on the boys.  The boys started screaming and crying, “Ouch, Kody!” and “Mom, he scratched me with his nails!”  While driving 70mph on the highway I made an executive decision to break the law for 40 minutes.  I told Zach to unbuckle and crouch low on the floor of the car so no passersby would see him and call us in.  Kody was now taking up 3/4 of the back seat and resting his big noggin on Ethan's lap.  Zach was grinning from ear to ear, thrilled that he was free from the confines of his booster seat and seat belt.  Ethan was crying “No fair!  No fair!” because he got the shaft and had to keep his seat belt on and endure the wrath of Pyrenees breath.  Two outta three ain’t bad.

Evil Garmin told us it was time to exit the highway.  I hate that lady.  I can always feel her looking down her electronic GPS nose at me.  She had us driving on winding country roads into the middle of nowhere.  I could hear the dueling banjos.  “You have reached your destination.”  Really, mean lady?  We are in a field.  Dave does not handle stress well.  We still had another 10 hours of driving ahead of us and we hadn’t even dropped off the dog, or found where to drop off the dog.  If Dave had it his way, Kody would stay in this random field to fend for himself with the hillbillies and if he was not here when we returned in a week, so be it.  I called the kennel.

“Dagum, you ain’t nowhere near where ya’ll need to be at.  I’ll come find ya’ll and lead ya’ll back to the farm.”  Ten minutes later the mud coated dually pulled up next to us and a man said, “Hey Ya’ll, I’m Tracy.  How’d ya’ll end up all the way over here?”   Great question, Tracy.  

We followed Tracy to his farm where Kody would check in and we would be on our way.  As we pulled up, there was an elderly woman walking with a 40lb bag of dog food from the kennel to the little shack which acted as the office.  “That's my mamma, Ms. Beverly.”  Ms. Beverly was at the least, in her eighties, but she must have been eating her Wheaties for decades.  Tracy and Ms. Beverly were the owners of the kennel, as well as obedience and retriever trainers.  The whole set up was pretty cool.  Kody’s kennel overlooked a pond and field that went on forever.  He actually seemed to like his temporary housing. 

Kody was settled in his space, so it was time to settle the boys in theirs.  Zach wanted to make the whole trip in the wheel well and we told him that was not an option.  Ethan wanted a turn in the wheel well.  Also not an option.  Dave set up their DVD, gave them each their own set of headphones, and hit play.  I saved the coordinates of the farm in Ms. Meany Garmin.  I wanted to make sure we would be able to pick up my furry baby on our way back without fear of our own personal Deliverance experience.  If we ever take a road trip for that long again (which we NEVER will) Kody will already be settled into his doggy suite long before our departure.

Class Driver

When the Senior Superlatives were announced in high school, I was expecting to win something like "Class Clown" or "Most Obnoxious."  I, however, was given the award of "Class Driver."  The boy who shared this esteemed honor with me earned the title by smacking his car into the back of a stopped school bus while looking at the girl he had a crush on.  While my incident was just as brilliant, it was a bit more costly and involved a hit-and-run.

I had gotten my driver’s permit on my 16^th birthday, in late autumn my junior year of high school.  My mom and I headed to the DMV after school so I could take my written test.  After a long wait, it was my turn.  My mom and I took the test over to a high table for me to begin.  As I was about to answer my 3^rd question, my mother cleared her throat.  I looked at her and she was nodding her head “no”.  I moved my pencil to a different answer, and still a subtle head shake of “no”.  The third answer must have been correct, because when I pointed my pencil at it, the nodding stopped.  Looking back, perhaps they should have monitored the testing area a little more closely.  On my 4^th question (which I will paraphrase, because it was over 20 years ago!), “When oncoming traffic headlights are too bright, what should you do?” I was confident with my answer.  As I moved my pencil toward my answer, I heard the throat clearing again.  This time, I ignored her.  I answered “B - Look to the lower right side of the steering wheel” because, evidently, I wanted to go careening off the side of the road in the dark.  Despite my incorrect answer, I passed my permit test.  My mom handed me the keys to her car so I could drive home.

To be honest, I had been driving for quite some time before I got my permit, and my mom could tell based on her commentary during her instructional car trips with me.  “Mery, you are doing fantastic for this being your first time on the road.”  Rewind.  During the summer months of my 15^th year on earth, my parents were part of a couples’ league at the country club and would go golfing every Friday night.  This left me with a solid four hours to act responsibly as the older sister.  I would ship my brother and sister off to their friends’ houses.  This would give me a chance to hit the open road with my friends.  In the mink brown 1984 Dodge 600 convertible, we would head over to the next town to really cause a ruckus.  We would play miniature golf.

Fast forward to the summer before my senior year in high school.  For one reason or another I was grounded from the car and even had my license and keys revoked by my parents.  I am sure it was warranted, but this meant I was expected to walk?  My friend Hannah was spending the night and we needed provisions from the grocery store two blocks away.  It was a beautifully clear evening in our sleepy town, and I managed to convince Hannah that my parents really wouldn’t care if we took my father’s brand new Acura, as long as we didn’t go anywhere but the store.  My parents were at a movie and my brother and sister were off doing whatever it is they did when they weren’t home.  How would we get caught?

After checking my mirrors, I carefully backed the Acura out of the garage, up the driveway, and out into the street.  That car was so nice.  Riding in luxury gave me even more confidence behind the wheel.  We made it to the store in two minutes.  We grabbed our essentials, Cool Ranch Doritos and Camel Lights.  This trip was taking no time at all and I felt very assured that my parents would never have to know I broke their law. 

As we climbed back into the car, Hannah buckled up for safety, as it was the law.  I did not, as I was a moron.  I pulled out into the street to make our way back to the house.  I was at the first of only 2 stop signs between the store and home.  I stopped.  As I turned right, I spotted a high school chum out of the corner of my eye, walking on the sidewalk where I had just turned from.  I turned around in my seat and instead of pressing the brake pedal, I pressed the gas of the torque machine and while hearing Hannah scream, “MERY!” went straight into a utility pole on the side of the road.  It was not a telephone pole, but I will explain the difference later. 

After what felt like hours (maybe 3 seconds) I looked up to see the spider cracked windshield indented with the shape of my head with stands of my hair hanging from it.  I had ripped the leather on the steering wheel with my lower braces.  My first instinct was to look over at Hannah.  She was ok, but in shock.  I was in shock.  What had I done?  I put the car in reverse to see what damage I had done to the pole.  It was splintered and looked like it might snap in two pieces.  My next instinct was to flee, so I did. I put the car in drive and drove the remaining one block home and pulled the car right into the garage.  Hannah and I got out of the car to inspect the damage done to the front of the vehicle.  Did I mention the car was new?    This was about the time I realized I could wiggle all of my lower teeth in my mouth that were being held in place by my braces.  I assured myself this was not that big of a deal, if the front of the car was ok.  The front of the car was NOT ok.  The front bumper was a crumpled mess.  I looked at Hannah and she looked at me.  No words were exchanged.  Panic. 

I ran into the house and called the first adult I could think of.  I called Cathy, a woman who I worked with at the office supply store in town.  Within 10 minutes she and her husband were at my house and I was sobbing.  She called the movie theater where my parents were watching Die Hard 2.  The manager walked up and down the theater aisle calling out my parents’ names.  To be a fly on that wall in that place. 

Soon after, my parents were home.  The first words out of my Dad’s mouths were, “Are you ok?” but his tone was saying ”…because if you are I will kill you.”   My dad had sent Hannah home after he learned she was ok.  I started crying again as he was walking very swiftly towards me.  I broke into a mild trot as he followed me around the built in picnic table on our back deck.   As he sped up, I sped up.  “Why are you running away from me?  Have I ever hurt you?”  Still jogging I sobbed, “No, but I am afraid today will be the day you do!”  Cathy and her husband left.  I was alone with my parents.   

After a good workout and plenty of explicatives, things calmed down.  At some point during the commotion, my mom called the police in order to file the report for the accident.  I sat with them and my parents at our dining room table, where they asked me a series of questions.  I had lied earlier to my father, and told him I had been wearing my seatbelt and it must have been faulty.  The cops weren’t buying it and I had to come clean.  That earned me another stink eye from my dad. 

The police charged me with…nothing!  They thought I had learned my lesson and did not want to deter me from ever driving again.  Knock wood, that is the last car accident I had.  Lesson learned indeed.  Speeding tickets don't count, right?

Now onto the difference between a telephone pole and a utility pole.  $600.  Since my wreck happened on a weekend, the town had to pay the DPW workers overtime to replace the pole so cost was even more inflated.  Of course, my father had to foot the bill.  Had it been a telephone pole, the cost would have been $900.  Evidently, it was more costly to replace a utility pole so the Mery Pollock Utility Pole cost my father $1500.  That was only for the pole.  The car was an entirely different story.  I still don’t know what that cost him, not to mention the skyrocketing insurance premium.

I was grounded for the remainder of that summer.  No phone, no friends, but they did make me drive.  That was torture, but when you fall off the horsepower, best thing to do is get back on.  I am grateful to have my loving supportive parents.  Even when I am at my worst, they stand by me, or ride by me if necessary.


****Update****
My mom had additional commentary for this particular post.  Is she being funny or upsetting? You decide:

Almost correct. I remember the usher going up and down the aisles looking for someone. I remember thinking " I hope no one has died." I remember him coming over to us with Mr. & Mrs. somebody who had pointed us out, and telling us you had been in an accident, nothing else, and that we should go home immediately. I remember thinking all the way home that you & Hannah were severely injured or dead. I remember pulling in the driveway, seeing the 2 of you standing there and Cathy telling me that you were alright, but the car was damaged. I remember your father getting out of the car and screaming at the top of his lungs with me trying to calm HIM down so he wouldn't have a stroke. I remember Cathy and her husband begging him not to hit you (of course he would not, but they had no way of knowing that with him screaming at you like a banshee). I remember Daddy shouting at Hannah to go home and me telling him that she was supposed to spend the night. I remember him screaming "NO WAY!!!!! go find someplace else to stay for your own good." I remember Cathy & her husband leaving AFTER asking you to tell us the truth. I remember telling daddy that I was taking you to the emergency room for them to look at your glass sharred forehead and hairline and your wiggling teeth. I remember daddy screaming that you could live with it that way for the rest of your life.  I remember calling the police to file a report and you swearing that you were sure the gas pedal had stuck after you had very slowly turned the corner. I remember Daddy screamed at you again that you would drive again "over my dead body." Knowing he didn't mean that, I took you to the emergency room.  I remember the doctor on duty was very concerned about a possible concussion and that your teeth would have been all over the car if you hadn't been wearing braces. I remember calling your orthodontist AT HOME and him agreeing to see you Monday morning.  I remember the police taking pity on you because your father was a deep shade of purple and every swear word I had ever heard was bellowing out of Daddy's mouth. I remember that tthe police did not cite you for driving recklessly or for leaving the scene of an accident; they didn't even suspend your license. I remember Mr. White Shoes [nickname of a family friend] laughing hysterically when I called the village depot to report the pole before the police called them. I remember that it was a Sunday and he told Daddy that normally the cost would be doubled, but that he would wait until Monday to file the report. I remember that he continued to laugh because it was a power pole, and it would "cost more than Mery has in the bank." I remember how quickly we could have lost you. I remember talking Daddy down for days. Those are my recollections.

Love,

Mom